REED A. MALCOLM

Psychotherapy / Adults & Couples

COUPLES THERAPY

My work with couples is grounded in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). I also have background in both psychoanalytic and Gottman couples therapy.

EFT is a short-term, humanistic approach to marital and couples therapy. Empirical and experiential research has supported the effectiveness of EFT showing that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and about 90% show significant improvements (the best results of any couple therapy) with positive effects lasting over time. Presently EFT is being used with diverse couples from various cultures around the world in private practice, university training centers and hospital clinics. The benefits of EFT couples therapy include better emotional communication, conflict de-escalation, stronger emotional bonds, and improved interpersonal understanding.

A relationship is a dynamic dance with each individual bringing their conscious and unconscious feelings and patterned behaviors to the union. Successful couples are those who can understand their partner's core values and needs. In time, you will learn the necessary steps required to move in tandem with ease and grace, simultaneously nurturing an abiding sense of safety, trust, respect, and affection for one and other.

A lasting relationship requires attention, effort, and a willingness to adapt in the face of inevitable change. One common misunderstanding I sometimes hear with patients is the idea that "happy couples don’t (and shouldn’t) fight." Nothing could be further from the truth. In fact, a relationship without conflict is a relationship without vitality and vulnerability. While conflict is normal, the manner in which two people communicate their differences, while accurately understanding the other, is a key determinant in whether that partnership will last. This requires the ability to spot and avoid such pitfalls as criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and shutting down.

Couples therapy can be applied to any and all partnerships (not just romantic ones). This includes family, friends, co-workers, etc.